What Was I Thinking?

     Now that I have been retired from teaching for a little over a week, I have been thinking back nostalgically on my career, my college days, my high school era and my childhood.  Well, if you know me at all, you will know that it was less a nostalgic trip down memory lane and more of a comedic reflection. This is what caused me to write today’s blog, “What was I thinking?”

    I’m going all the way back to childhood this time! When I was a little kid, there were some things that I absolutely hated that now, as an adult, I love!  Take a look at some of the ridiculous things that were on my “hate list.”

  1. Napping. I absolutely adore a good nap! There is nothing better than falling asleep on the sofa in front of a perfectly good movie or even climbing in bed on a Sunday afternoon for the real deal with pillows and blankets. Napping on a raft in the pool is great and even on the lounge chairs on the pool deck. I now have an awesome new option, and that is the hammock that my school gave me for my retirement! Naps are the best. What was wrong with me as a child when I would resist napping?!
  2. Eating Veggies.  As a child, I can remember absolutely detesting any vegetable that crossed my plate. I tried swallowing them whole, hiding them, begging my brother to help me eat them…but actually ingesting them was the last thing I wanted. Flash forward to 2018. I’ve been participating in the Weight Watchers Freestyle program and now I only want to eat the vegetables because they are NO POINTS on the plan!!! (Okay, so that’s a white lie….I still love all the other food groups, but veggies are Freestyle gold!)
  3. Reading. I did like reading as a child, but when summer rolled around I always got a chip on my shoulder about the assigned reading that our English teachers thought we would enjoy doing. I would grumble and complain, but then after reading the books, I found myself in love with each and every one of them.  During my adulthood, I found that I couldn’t wait for summer break from teaching so that I could actually read books that were NOT education related. I start every summer with no less than 10 books on my Nook or in my hands and can’t get enough reading time in! My middle school self would be in shock that my adult self reads because I adore it!
  4. Working in the garden. My parents had a huge garden every year during my life under their roof. My brother and I would have to take time weeding the garden or picking all sorts of vegetables every day. This was an agonizing punishment for me then. I was so annoyed and hated sweating and crawling around in the dirt. However, my grown-up self would love nothing more than to work in a beautiful garden. I’ve tried my hand unsuccessfully many years to reproduce a garden the fraction of the size that my parents had. My grown-up debit card would love the satisfaction of NOT PAYING for vegetables. Oh, what was I thinking when I complained and whined to my parents back then?
  5. Taking a shower.  Most kids hate to come in from playing outside to get a shower or a bath! It’s a total waste of playtime. Living in the south, however, has really made me appreciate the shower as an adult! In fact, with heat indices in the 100’s most of the summer and humidity nearing 100%, I often take 2 showers a day and on some occassions, I can even manage 3 showers in the same day. I’m sure my parents never let me run around being the stinky kid, but I do remember fighting them about bath time.  As a 6-year-old, I never would have imagined loving the shower so much!

 

    I’m sure that if I thought for even five more minutes that I could come up with many more things to add to my list, however, I’m feeling like a short nap would be a much better use of my time. I’ll let you all add to the list for yourselves!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

Let’s Celebrate!

Lately I’ve been bursting out in songs like, “Celebrate good times, come on! It’s a celebration,” or “It’s a party in the USA!”  We Americans just love to celebrate things! It’s not a bad thing to want to celebrate great events, milestones, birthdays, anniversaries, and the like. It’s actually a very good thing to commemorate important events in our lives. This past weekend, I took to the internet to explore some of the many fun things we Americans celebrate! I found thousands of reasons to celebrate!   Here are a few of my favorites!

 

National Buffet Day. January 1st.  This sounds like an amazing excuse to have to go to dinner at your favorite buffet. Every other day of the year I avoid buffets because I’m leary of food that sits around for hours on end at inappropriate temperatures. Let’s get our food poisoning over with on January 1.

National Umbrella Day. February 10th.  Why not celebrate umbrellas!?! This little invention keeps our heads dry!

National Everything You Do Is Right Day. March 16th. I have been waiting for one of these days for 50 years. I cannot wait for March 16th so I can be right all the time!

National Walk Around Things Day. April 4th.  Could this also be called National Don’t Clean Up Your House or Room Day?! I mean, as long as we’re walking around stuff….let’s leave stuff out on purpose!!!

National Limerick Day. May 12th.

This day seems like such a fun time

To celebrate this kind of rhyme.

You  may need to think

And then grab some ink

But you’ll write down a poem most sublime!

 

National Vanilla Milkshake Day. June 20th. I’ll drink to that!

World Emoji Day. July 17th.  Why not celebrate this one?!?! I mean, a picture is worth a thousand words, right!?

National Black Cat Appreciation Day. August 17th.  I am not even a cat person, but I can definitely see myself celebrating this one! I mean, those poor kitties are run away from and feared all year long. They need love, too!

National Ampersand Day. September 8th. The ampersand is a cute & cuddly piece of punctuation. What could be more fun & meaningful than to celebrate this little piece of artwork that fills in so beautifully for the word “and?!”

National Name Your Car Day. October 2nd. I don’t name my cars. I don’t know why I don’t. Because there is a special day set aside for this, I will name my new car this year on October 2nd.

National Calzone Day. November 1st.  I picked this one out for my blog simply so I have an excuse to eat a calzone. This may be “countdown” worthy!!!

National Cat Herder’s Day. December 15th.  This day is near and dear to my heart because teachers are the ultimate cat herders.  I was a cat herder for 30 years. I did not know I had an entire day set aside to honor me. I will celebrate from now on! Does your job involve herding cats? Let’s go to lunch together!

 

    Look friends, I know you can find something to be happy about and to celebrate each and every day of the year! Don’t let the monotony of your everyday routine dull your sparkle and steal your joy! Find something everyday to celebrate! It doesn’t have to be a peach pie or a chocolate shake either! It could be that you celebrate getting out the door on time by getting a coffee from the McDonald’s drive through. Celebrate your child’s great math test grade by stopping at the park to play 30 minutes before going home to do homework. Treat yourself to 30 minutes with your feet propped up after completing your “to do” list!  Life is so much more fun when we find reasons to celebrate and be happy! I think that’s why I ended up getting lost for over an hour in that Google search of celebrations! Be joyful. Have fun. Celebrate life!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

The Traffic Jam!

     If you’ve read many of my posts, you already know that I love to people watch. It’s fun, funny and can even teach you a thing or two about yourself.  I’ve really been watching people in traffic the past couple of weeks, and once again, it’s been a real treat. Let me introduce you to the people I’ve met recently.

 

The happy driver.

Now, this particular species is definitely on the endangered list. These are the people who are smiling, singing with the radio, happily conversinging with their other passengers, and generally looking relaxed and pleasant. They aren’t yelling at other drivers or cutting in and out of lanes just trying to get ahead. They are just enjoying the ride. I just love these people. I wish there were more on the roads.

The oblivious drivers.

These folks scare me. The other day I was driving home and the lady in the car in front of me was texting and drifted out of her lane into the right lane beside her nearly running into the driver who was on her right. He was totally unaware of the car almost striking him because he was talking on his phone. As it turns out…I was the only one paying attention and I was the only one of us about to have a heart attack. There are way too many people driving who are paying NO ATTENTION at all to the road. Jesus take the wheel!

The obnoxious drivers.

You’ve all seen these guys and girls. They ride up on your bumper fully believing that if they get close enough to push you that you will be annoyed and go faster. Sometimes they honk, wave their arms, flash you a finger, or a dirty look. They change lanes without signals and squeeze in where there is truly not room for them. These people think that they are the only ones worthy to be on the road and will take dangerous chances to annoy you and get you out of the way. The scariest obnoxious drivers are the motorcyclists who ride between lands and squeeze in everywhere. I certainly hope that no one I know drives like this.

The overly cautious (aka the roadblock).

These drivers are always going a minimum of 5 mph UNDER the speed limit. They will stay in the left lane which is normally designated for faster drivers and they will start to annoy you because you will have to ride your brakes in order to stay back far enough.Then you have to deal with the obnoxious drivers that drive on your own bumper while staying a safe distance from this roadblock.  These drivers can make even the Happy Drivers scowl a little bit. I appreciate the fact that you are being cautious and think you’re being safe, but if you are the overly cautious driver, please take as many back roads as possible and please avoid coming out during rush hour!

The Textbook Driver.

I just love these people! They  are the teacher’s pet of drivers. These folks use their turn signals all the time. They look before they merge. They signal and scoot over a lane so that other cars can easily merge onto the interstate with them. These lovely people leave safe space between themselves and other drivers and they would never even dream of not waiting their turn at a 4-way stop. These people restore my faith in humanity. I hope everyone I know is this kind of driver!

 

    Now I know that riding around on the crazy streets of Charleston, SC can be a real trial for even the best drivers. I tend to be the Happy Textbook Driver, but if I’m not careful and intentional, I could become that angry, obnoxious driver. So, I’m not saying that I’m perfect or that I’m never tempted to cut someone off to better my position on the road. I am saying that, like so many other good habits in life, good and peaceful driving is a choice. When I feel frustration building up during my commute, I consciously take steps to keep myself in control. I’ll sing to the radio, pray, converse with the people in my car or even have a chat with myself about how getting angry or upset in traffic is not worth the energy that it would be zapping from my life. This summer, why not take the challenge to be the Happy Textbook Driver and make your time on the road even more enjoyable!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

Thrown Into The Future!

My last car purchase was in 2009. Nine whole years ago. I bought a 2008 Chevy Trailblazer back then and drove it for 126,000 miles. My husband decided that it was time for me to get a newer used vehicle and so the hunt began. Last week, we found the vehicle we were looking for and now are awaiting its arrival from its current home. In the meantime, my awesome dealership gave me a 2018 Chevy Equinox to drive around until my vehicle arrives. I feel like I was tossed head first into the future and that my rental is now 10 times smarter than me. Here’s why!

 

  • There is no key!!!! So, I get into the car to drive off and there is no place for the key. The millenial salesman kindly tells me that my car is smart enough to sense when the little key fob thingy is in the car and all I have to do is push the button on the dash to start and stop the car. This is MAGIC, people! MAGIC!!!!

 

 

  • There is a back-up camera!!!! Do you mean to tell me that I’ve been turning my head around backwards in order to back up for 37 years and now all you have to do is look at a screen?!?!  It’s a modern miracle!!!!

 

 

  • This car knows how far I can go until I run out of gas! I used to keep track of my milage and how much gas I put in the car to figure out how far I could go on a tank of gas. Now….I have NO MATH to do….I just push a button and it tells me how far I can go on the gas I have.  No way!!!!!!

 

 

  • The engine stops at long lights and other times when I’m sitting still for longer stretches. Wait, what?! You just know when to stop the engine to save fuel when I’m sitting at a red light or railroad crossing?!?!  Just. Shut. Up!!!!

 

 

  • This car won’t let me run you off the road!! There are nifty little flashing lights that illuminate my mirrors when someone is in my blind spots. If I really pay attention to my car and my surroundings, I have no excuse to ever change lanes on you and run you off the road!!! (See….there’s even something for you!)

 

 

  • I don’t need my phone while driving…my car has all the gadgets! I’ve got Bluetooth Technology, Sirius Radio, Wi-fi,  OnStar, Auxilary input, USB ports, and so much more!!! I could take a lifetime to learn all the things that this rental can already do. Heck, even opening the gas tank cover was a new experience! Wowza to all the crazy extras.

 

 

So, now I know I sound like a really old fart, but you’ve got to admit that technology sure has changed our vehicles. I’m so amazed and thankful for all the smart engineers and technologists who came up with all these advances. I guess I’ll have to learn some new features when my own vehicle arrives at the dealership for pick up!  I’m excited to say that I have been thrown into the future and I LOVE it!

 

Listfully yours,

Vicki

Things That Make Me Thankful

Gratefulness is not just for the month of November. Actually, gratefulness should be part of our daily lives. It is said that if a person learns to be grateful for what they have, they will eventually remove all traces of entitlement, greed, and jealousy from their lives. The spirit of gratitude is best friends with the spirit of joy, and if you happen to be a Christian, gratitude pleases God immensely! I Thessalonians 5 15-18 even say thankfulness is God’s will! “See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” Do you want to be in God’s will? Be thankful!

 

After you read this post, I’m going to need everyone to get a small notebook or a fancy journal and begin listing what you are grateful for.  If you are artistic…draw it! If you are poetic…write a poem about it! If you love photography…take a picture, print it out and paste it in your journal. Don’t just read this! Do something to make yourself dwell on the gifts you have around you every day!  Since you know I love lists so much, it should be no surprise that I’m leaving my partial list of things that make me feel grateful!

 

  1. My husband. After my first marriage ended 15 years in, I was sure that God would never give me a second chance at love. I was wrong. He gave me Scott and I am forever grateful.

 

  1. My Son. I have a talented, intelligent, funny, independent, cheerful, kind hearted, and God-honoring son. I am truly blessed.

 

  1. My Church. My current church has done more to challenge me to be a better Christ-follower than any past church I’ve attended. I am grateful.

 

  1. My friends, Teresa, Dawn, Ann, Stefanie, and Cortney. I hate to name names and forget someone or hurt someone’s feelings, but these 5 ladies have been my closest friends, my biggest cheerleaders, my attitude adjusters, and my sounding board for years. They are my 2:00 a.m. friends….who would take my call at that hour if I needed them. They know some of my worst character traits and love me anyway. They know my biggest fears and failures and they still stick to my side. They even put up with my weird sense of humor.  I am so thankful for them and blessed!  This is not to say I’m not grateful for my other friends. I am so lucky to have many great friends in my life! They each mean so much to me! They make my heart bubble over with gratitude.

 

  1. My Job. I love my job. I am thankful that I get to do something amazing to earn an income which helps keep my family supplied with food, clothing, and shelter.

 

  1. My medical benefits. I have amazing health insurance. I can go to the doctor when I need to go and yes, I’ll have to pay my share, but I never worry that I’ll run out of money and never be able to pay for my care.

 

  1. White Chocolate. Okay….I had to get something quirky on this list. I LOVE white chocolate and when I eat it I’m even more grateful for my taste buds.

 

  1. Dogs. Dogs are a gift, straight from Jesus to humankind. Dogs make me so happy. I am grateful for all the cute ears and happy little faces!

 

  1. iPhones. I don’t even know how I survived with a phone attached to a wall or to a phone that only makes calls.  I love this little miracle called a smartphone!

 

  1. Cameras. I love taking pictures. I love the creativity. I love the memories. I love capturing beautiful moments and keeping them forever. I am thankful to have some great camera equipment.

 

Folks, I could literally go on all day. When I first jotted this list in my journal, I was able to write down these 10 things in just minutes. If you really train yourself to look for things to be thankful for you will find it becoming easier and easier. How about that close parking spot at the grocery store when you’re feeling exhausted? How about that cool morning that makes you feel awake and alive? How about those gorgeous trees and flowers in your neighborhood? How about when your spouse or friend takes you out to dinner and you were dreading having to cook that night? How about when a friend calls you on your way to work just to chat? Here’s a great one for Charleston SC…how about those mornings you leave at just the right minute and traffic is moving smoothly? Even the little things are huge blessing for which to be thankful!!!  Now, go out there and keep a list of all the little and big things that make you feel grateful and develop your attitude of gratitude!

 

Listfully yours,

 

Vicki

Things I Don’t Understand

Think about how much knowledge there is in the world. Really think about every possible profession that you know of and think about the specialized knowledge that those professions have. Think about how your own body is a miraculous creation of cells, organs, bones, synapses, electrical impulses, and DNA coding that makes us each a unique individual. Now, have I made you think enough to realize how much you DON’T actually know. It can be terrifying to feel so small and insignificant, right!?! Well, today I’m going to share a dozen of my favorite mysteries of the universe. Here goes.

  1. Why is there Braille on a drive up ATM?  If you need Braille, you shouldn’t be driving.
  2. Why does Amazon send small items that you purchase in gigantic boxes? I recently ordered two high-speed memory cards for my camera that fit in the palm of my hand and Amazon shipped them in a shoe-box sized box. Yesterday we received two desktop organizing trays in a box that would hold two office-sized microwaves. It seems a little extreme.
  3. Why do we think criminals will obey MORE gun laws when they break the ones we currently have? All joking aside, I think we need more Jesus changing people’s lives.
  4. Why can’t directions for assembling things have words AND pictures? “Back in the day” when I had to assemble something that I purchased I would read written words and see diagrams for putting these items together. Now, we have switched over to directions with only pictures and obnoxious arrows pointing to things on the picture that don’t even exist on the item being assembled. I just want my words back. I’m not a caveman with no language skills.
  5. Why am I called intolerant when I don’t agree with your opinion…but when you don’t listen to my opinion you somehow are NOT being intolerant? Just think about it.
  6. Why do people loot and trash their own cities when their sports team wins a big championship? What kind of message are they trying to send? Is that some kind of reward for winning? I just don’t get it.
  7. Why am I so tempted to touch the surface that has a “Wet Paint” sign? Do I really think in my heart of hearts that someone would lie to me about that?
  8. Why do I get slightly annoyed when someone calls me when they could have easily texted me? When did I quit loving to talk out loud? That’s totally not me!
  9. How is it that the first 50 years of my life just flew by so quickly and the past week has felt like a century is passing ever-so-slowly? My time sensor must be off! Someone, please rescue me from this long week!
    Why are the pockets on ladies shorts, pants, and skirts so tiny? I love pockets. I need room for my keys, a lip gloss, and maybe even my iPhone 6. Is that too much to ask. Stop giving me these tiny, shallow pockets that won’t hold anything and incidentally, will dump out the contents whenever I sit down. That is all.
  10. Why are ladies’ belts so cheaply made? Men get these gorgeous leather belts to hold up their pants and shorts. What do women get? We get these flimsy belts that are NOT made of leather but have price tags that are only appropriate on leather belts. I need a belt to not only hold up my pants but to also hold my holster at my side when I conceal carry. Will someone please tell the fashion industry that it is possible to make sturdy, leather belts for women that are also pretty? Thank you.
  11. Why does my kid laugh at me when I use the “talk to text” feature on my phone? Is that an old person feature on a phone? I feel certain that everyone is allowed to talk to text if their phone is capable of this magical feat! Or was this feature indeed created for the older person who can’t type that fast on that a small phone keyboard?
  12. Why are the pockets on ladies shorts, pants, and skirts so tiny? I love pockets. I need room for my keys, a lip gloss, and maybe even my iPhone 6.  Is that too much to ask. Stop giving me these tiny, shallow pockets that won’t hold anything and incidentally, will dump out the contents whenever I sit down. That is all.

There are literally thousands of things that I do not understand. This list could go on and on for weeks and weeks of this blog. In fact, the rest of my career could be spent on this topic. However, I’m going to leave you with these mysteries to contemplate and if you happen to have any answers to these, feel free to drop that information in the comments!!!
Thanks for reading!

Listfully yours!
Vicki

You Can’t Fix Stupid: Advice for the Tide Pod Generation

This is just unbelievable, folks. There are actually people eating Tide detergent pods and dying from it. When I first heard about this I was speechless. When I heard it happened to more than one person I wondered why people could be that stupid. When I was younger, I never looked at powdered detergent and thought, “Gee, I bet with an egg and some vanilla extract that would make some pretty awesome cookies!!!” Then I began to hear that some government officials wanted to make a law that these Tide Pods be made less attractive so people won’t eat them. Really???? Are you kidding me right now???? How stupid have our society and our leaders become?! So, here’s my advice for the Tide Pod Eaters who seem to love eating pretty things….eat something off my “Pretty Things That Are Actually Edible” list.

Pretty Things That Are Actually Edible:

Soda. It comes in such fun colors and has fizzy little bubbles for that extra sparkle.

Ice. Those clear little cubes of ice are so pretty to look at and if you add some food coloring you can make some amazing colors.

Jello. What can be prettier and more fun than colorful, jiggly, sweet stuff that you can also slurp!!!!

Lollipops. The fun color, the awesome flavors, the interesting shapes, and the fun formats (such as ring, pacifiers, and gum centers) make lollipops a way better option than Tide Pods.

Strawberries. I just love those cone-shaped, red beauties. They are also sweet alone or dipped in chocolate.

Whipped Cream. If you are a really crazy person, you can even spray this pretty stuff straight out of the can and into your mouth.

Fun-fetti Cake. Hey, Tide Pod kids….they make a cake that looks like there is colorful confetti inside AND they make a matching icing!!!

Minion Ice Cream Treats. Run after the ice cream truck one day and you will find a super pretty, minion-shaped, ice cream treat! The eyeball is even a piece of black bubble gum. It’s so fun to eat!

M & M Candies. Okay, there is NO excuse to eat a detergent pod when you can get absolutely any color you want in a pack of M & M candies.

Corn on the Cob. Who hasn’t marvelled at the beautiful rows of yellow corn kernels, all lined up on the cob and dripping with butter?! It’s such a beautiful sight and it tastes so sweet. You adventurous detergent-pod-eaters should love the extra thrill of ripping from the cob with your teeth!

I could literally go on all day naming beautiful AND edible things that you could put in your mouth. So the next time you feel tempted to eat a pretty detergent pod, refer to my list and be rescued! Why not grab your notebook and make a list of your own favorite, edible beauties!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

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Musical Wisdom: Lessons From Children’s Songs

Everyone seeks out wisdom from many different sources during a lifetime. Sometimes we get wisdom from our parents, our teachers, our Bibles, our friends, a minister, a therapist, or even self help books. Over my past 30 years as a music teacher, I have gained a lot of wisdom from the sources listed in the previous sentence, but I’ve also learned a lot from children’s songs!  Here’s the list!

 

 

  • If You’re Happy and You Know It.  You’ve known this song since preschool, but do you really get the message?  It says, “If you’re happy and you know it then your face will surely show it.” Did you catch that? YOUR FACE WILL SURELY SHOW IT!!! People, please, please, please put a smile on your faces once in a while. I can’t tell you how tired I am of seeing grouchy people walking around. I know everyone is NOT miserable, but nobody is telling their face that they are happy! When I make eye contact with someone, I smile….. even when I feel grumpy. I know this sounds crazy, but I even pass people at church and work, who know me well, and they don’t make eye contact and they don’t smile. Let’s change that. If you’re happy and you know it then your face will surely show it.  SMILE!!!!

 

 

 

  • The Itsy Bitsy Spider. Everyone knows the Itsy Bitsy Spider. He’s the guy that was climbing up the waterspout and a poorly timed rain storm came through and washed him to the bottom.  Do you remember what he did after the storm? Yes! He went up the spout again!  The lesson? Life is going to bring you many rain storms that will set you back a mile. Don’t quit. When the storm is over, get up and get going up the spout again. That spider didn’t curse the storm. He didn’t blame the spout for his problems. He didn’t say, “I cam from a bad water spout environment and I can’t climb out.” He simply got up and got his eight little legs walking again. Have the perseverance of the Itsy Bitsy Spider.

 

 

  1. Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. That star sure looks like a diamond up there! How I wonder what you are! The message of this song is to slow down long enough to look up or to look around and enjoy the beauty of God’s creation around you. Check out the next full moon.  Teachers hate full moons because they make the students go crazy, but if you gaze up in the sky at one of those things, you will be in awe of how gorgeous the moon is and it is simply reflecting the sun’s light! It’s amazing! Look at your mountains. Look at your snow. Look at your sandy beaches. Be in awe of that massively strong ocean that throws its waves at the shore. Take time to admire the world around you. It will lift your spirits and help you feel more gratitude and joy!

 

 

  • I Know An Old Lady Who Swallowed a Fly.  The lady in this song is a maniac. She begins by swallowing a fly. Then she says, “Why did I eat that thing? Now I need to swallow a spider to get it.” But after the spider is swallowed, the lady has more regrets and swallows a bird to get it. It doesn’t end there, you know. She has to swallow a cat, a dog, a cow, and a horse….and then BOOM….she explodes and dies.  Wait, what?! That’s crazy. There’s a couple lessons her. Number one, don’t eat food until you explode. I can’t even imagine how many weight watchers points she consumed in that song. Food won’t fix your problems, so don’t eat until you explode. Lesson two, don’t bite off more than you can chew. When your life is busy and you are feeling frantic trying to keep up, make sure you are strong enough to say NO to people who come to pile jobs on your plate. Look out for yourself and your family. You don’t have to take on every volunteer opportunity that comes your way. You don’t have to be on every committee at work. You don’t have to fill every waking moment of your day with tasks. The Old Lady shows us that taking on too much will cause us to explode emotionally, mentally, or even physically.  Slow down and enjoy some quiet times.

 

 

 

  • The Farmer In the Dell. Do you remember singing about the old farmer? He is a very smart guy. He chose to take his wife in the song. Then, in turn, the wife took the nurse, the nurse chose the child, the child grabbed the dog, the dog wanted the cat and the cat chose the rat. At the end of this old song we find the cheese standing alone. (It must have been some kind of stinky cheese.) Are you wondering what gem we can learn from this song? Here it is….choose the people that you keep in your life carefully. Decide who you will keep close to you and decide who the stinky cheese people are in your life! I’ll go a step further. Keep those special people close to you and SPEND TIME WITH THEM. Those great people in your life are the ones that bring you joy and love doing life with you, so make time for them and keep them close. Be sure that you are aware of the stinky cheese people in your life, too. Keep their drama and their negativity at arms length. Know when to cut ties completely, too. I believe we are called to serve one another and to comfort and encourage one another, but we’ve all had extreme cases where a person was just too toxic to stay around. Be aware and be wise about it. Keeping loved ones close and “stinky cheeses” far, will keep you healthy and happy, just like the Farmer in the Dell.

 

 

There you have it. Wisdom from children’s songs and a 30 year veteran music teacher. I hope at least one of these songs made you stop and think today! If nothing else, I hope something made you laugh! Maybe I’ll even get to see a few more smiles out in public!

 

Listfully yours,

 

Vicki

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Romantic Gestures: Why My Husband is the Coolest

Hello! Valentine’s Day is upon us and I just couldn’t resist taking this opportunity to make a fun list of some of the cool things that my husband does regularly to show his love! Now, I know what you’re thinking, “Oh, my, this lady is gonna brag about her husband. Big deal.”  But, read on!  Maybe you will find inspiration in these ideas! Maybe you will use a few of these things to surprise your own spouse. Maybe this will cause you to think about how awesome your spouse or significant other is! That’s the point! When we count our blessings, we automatically feel more joy in our lives. Read on, my friends!

  1. The “Vicki Playlist.”  My husband has a playlist on his iPod with my name on it. This list is full of all of my favorite songs and artists. When we ride in his truck, he pulls the Vicki Playlist up and we jam out to the music I love.  It’s such a thoughtful gesture and makes me feel special!

2. Mystery Dates. Every couple of months, my husband plans a mystery date. That means I have no ideas where we are eating and what we are doing. All he tells me is what type of clothing best suits the trip. For example, one time Scott told me to be ready for a 7:00 p.m. dinner, to wear warm-ish clothes because we’d be outside, and to bring my camera along.  We ended up eating at one of my favorite creekside diners and then visiting a local tourist spot after dark. It turns out that a traveling company was putting on a light show on the side of an aircraft carrier that is on display in Charleston’s Harbor. I love photography, so Scott figured that I’d love the light show and want to take pictures. It was a super fun night and not knowing what was going to happen was half of the fun.

3. Just Because Gifts.  My husband is super sneaky. He is good at keeping secrets which is one of the things at which I am most terrible. He listens to things I talk about, secretly shops on Amazon or local business, and then surprises me when I least expect it at random times throughout the year. I’ve received shoes, purses, watches, bracelets and many other things simply because he took the time to listen…and then be sneaky!

4. Cards on the Dash.  I get up for work at 5:00 a.m. I have to admit that I am usually grumpy in the mornings. I hate getting up alone when most people are sleeping. Since Scott leaves before I do, I don’t even have him to chat with as I get ready to improve my mood. So, again, on random occasions, I find little cards resting over my speedometer when I hop in the car to leave for work. Sometimes, there’s even a little chocolate to go with it!

5. Breakfast. While I normally do all the cooking in my house (and I use the term “Cooking” loosely,) on weekends and Wednesdays when my husband is off work, he is always careful to get up before I do and go make us breakfast! On work days it is such a blessing that I don’t have to cook for myself and I get a delicious breakfast. On weekends, it’s just plain thoughtful and fun! The extra effort that Scott puts into cooking and cleaning up puts a smile on my face and joy in my heart!

6. Support. One of the best romantic gestures of all is support. My husband is a great listener and gives terrific advice and then supports me. He’s supported my desire to start up a direct sales jewelry business. He’s cheered me on with my photography endeavors, too. He is totally understanding of my desire to retire from teaching and pursue another avenue of work.  This support means a lot to me. After all, who doesn’t love having someone in your corner?!

Now, there are so many other things that I could add to this list, but I’m pretty sure people wouldn’t keep on reading forever. So, in conclusion, I want to give you an assignment. Make a list of things your spouse or significant other does for you. Counting your blessings is a great way to lift your spirits!  Then make a list of things that you could do for someone else! I guarantee it will do your heart good! I hope you all have a very happy Valentine’s Day!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

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What Did You Say? Five Quotes I Love

By now you may have noticed that I LOVE lists. Today I’m going to share my five favorite quotes. I have journals full of memorable and inspiring quotes for all occasions and it was very hard to choose only five, but there are the five I’ve chosen to share with you today.

  1. Decide right now if this situation is going to make you BETTER or BITTER and then live like it.   I first heard those words from a good friend of mine when I found out that my husband had cheated on me and left. Of course, no one intends to set out to become a bitter old person, so I chose to become better. This was not an easy choice to stick with every day. There were many ups and downs and many days were just like hell on earth, but whenever I was totally overwhelmed, I remind myself that I was not going to let this ruin me and I chose “better”…..joy, peace, happiness, forgiveness, and determination.

2. Fear not for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold onto you with my righteous right hand. –God, Isaiah 41:10 CSB.  I am not ashamed to admit that I am a Christ-follower so the Bible is a great source of encouragement, motivation, challenge, and correction for me.  I have experienced so many situations in which God has truly protected me and intervened on my behalf. In the previously mentioned divorce, when I was too discouraged, too hopeless, and too weak to press on, I experienced the strength of God to continue on and felt His presence holding me up while I plodded ahead with life.

3. If it ain’t good, God ain’t done. –Perry Noble, Pastor of NewSpring Church.  I heard Pastor Perry say this many, many, many times in his sermons and fell in love with the southern, country-folk way of saying it!  This is another quote that actually based on the Bible. Romans 8:28 says, “We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God, who are called according to His purpose.”   This isn’t a promise that things will turn out the way YOU want them, it’s a promise that when the situation is resolved you will have peace and joy and be better and stronger for it!  In the case of my divorce, God didn’t miraculously make my ex-husband come back to me with a huge apology and act like the perfect Christian man again. What God did do was to give me strength, provide for me in many ways, encourage me, help me to grow closer to Him to become a much stronger Christian, and give me a peace that I never could have attained on my own. On top of that, several years later God blessed me with a second chance at marriage.

4. Pray as if everything depended on God and work as if everything depended on you. –Saint Ignatius Loyola.  Prayer is NOT a crutch, a magic potion, or an easy way to get things done. Prayer is letting your needs be made known to God. When I began looking for my first teaching job, I sure did pray and ask God to provide me a job. I did not, however, sit on my sofa waiting for the phone to ring with an offer. I filled out applications. I went to interviews. I scoured the newspapers (yes…this was “back in the day” before websites compiled a list of jobs for you) and even made dozens of phone calls.  In short, I believed God would provide me with a job, but I worked hard at finding it!

5. If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind. –Dr. Wayne M. Dyer (made popular in the book entitled Wonder.)  I love this one, but this one can be a little difficult at times. My ex-husband’s mother was one of the most hateful women that I ever met. I won’t go into detail, but it was obvious that she did not choose joy, kindness or gratitude. She chose to be bitter, mean and entitled. On numerous occasions I could hear her through the phone, talking to her son and saying terrible things about me sprinkled through with profanities. I wanted to yell at her, tell her she was an awful human and punch her in the face, but instead, I chose kindness. I kept my mouth shut, prayed a lot, and now have no regrets. Treat people kindly, even when they aren’t practicing kindness. They will never expect it. 

So, friends, those are five of my favorite quotes. I hope you will find some encouragement in this list! Grab a pen and notebook and start recording your own favorites or share them in the comments below!

Listfully yours,

Vicki

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